We recently began exploring group sex. But he insists I crossed a line one morning, and is punishing me with silence and distance
My husband and I are in an open relationship (both male, married for eight years) and on a recent holiday we started to explore group sex. We had a wonderful threesome where we both felt great afterwards and had a mutual attraction to the other man – which is rare for us. However, our latest endeavour wasn’t as successful.
We invited a couple and a single man back to our hotel room. Everything was great during the fivesome, and afterwards the couple left. We invited the other man to stay the night (mostly led by me). In the morning, things between me and this man started to heat up. He went to the bathroom and I asked my husband if he wanted to partake, to which he said no and that he’d rather sleep. Regardless, I carried on with the man for a short period until we climaxed.
Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a US-based psychotherapist who specialises in treating sexual disorders.
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