Woman Admits She’s Waiting for Her Inheritance to Finally Leave Her Husband: ‘I’ve Been Over This Marriage for 8 Years’

A woman sought advice from the Reddit community after revealing that she planned to leave her husband once she received her inheritance. In her post, she shared that she had been married for 10 years but had emotionally checked out of the relationship for nearly eight.

“Ideally I would love to stay with my husband and enjoy our lives and grow old together,” she wrote, “but honestly the only reason I’ve stayed for the past 8 years is because of our kids and I really can’t afford to leave.” 

The woman explained that despite both partners working full-time and earning nearly the same income, they “pretty much never have money” and that she handled nearly all the household and parenting responsibilities.

She detailed her exhausting daily routine, saying, “I take care of the kids 90% of the time. I am 100% responsible for all cooking (I cook a homemade dinner EVERY NIGHT) and big breakfast every weekend.” Her days began early and ended late, as she described, “I get up with the kids get them ready, fix breakfast, make their lunches, feed animals, take kids to school, work all day then come home and clean, do laundry, cook, clean, go to bed.”

The woman said she and her husband no longer shared any emotional connection. “We have zero to do with each other,” she admitted. “Haven’t been on a date in years, don’t cuddle, don’t hold hands, don’t really even talk, rarely ride together or go anywhere together… like ever!”

She also expressed frustration over her husband’s habits, noting that he smoked both cigarettes and marijuana despite promising to quit after they had children. She said his failure to follow through had become another point of resentment.

Although she acknowledged that her husband was “a great dad for the most part” and contributed by mowing the grass and helping her father on their property, she felt the marriage lacked true partnership. 

“I’ve begged him to be a partner and try to be a loving husband for years but nothing changes,” she confessed. “Like I said I would love nothing more than to live out our lives together traveling and enjoying life, but I’m NOT going to be his slave forever and I’d prefer to be with a man who loves me or no one at all.”

The turning point for her, she explained, was that she would soon be receiving a significant inheritance. “I’ve always known I would have a significant inheritance but we’ve put things in motion for that to happen before my parents pass,” she shared. “So basically I’ll be getting enough money (much more and vacation home and small self run businesses) that I can afford to leave.”

According to her, her husband was aware of the situation and knew she planned to separate once the money came through. Still, she seemed conflicted about whether she was in the wrong for planning her exit around the inheritance.

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Commenters overwhelmingly sided with the woman, encouraging her to protect herself legally before any money changed hands. One person wrote, “NTA, but get that divorce done first. That way he can’t challenge for ANY part of your pre-inheritance. You deserve a life that you love! And you work and make as much as he does, so you can afford to get rid of the roommate.”

Others warned her about the potential legal and financial complications of receiving property and businesses while still married. “If it was an actual inheritance even if it was during your marriage it would stay yours as long as you don’t co-mingle the assets,” one commenter explained. “If your parents are gifting you these items during your marriage it can get a lot more tricky, especially if he is doing work on the property.”

They also urged her to seek professional help before taking any steps. “Divorce FIRST then talk to an estate attorney with your parents,” the commenter continued, noting that “there are a lot of tax implications and nuances to consider with that large of a ‘gift.’ ”