Tori Spelling Says Her Kids Make NSFW Positions with Their Elf on the Shelf (Exclusive)

Tori Spelling says she’s had to veto a few of her kids’ Elf on the Shelf displays.

While catching up with PEOPLE at the iHeartRadio Jingle Ball in Los Angeles on Friday, Dec. 5, the 52-year-old actress revealed that this is the first year that her older kids are in charge of rearranging the mischievous elves each night. 

“I have passed on the baton,” Spelling — who is mom to kids Liam Aaron, 18, Stella Doreen, 17, Hattie Margaret, 14, Finn Davey, 13, and Beau Dean, 8 — explained. “I have passed on the elves to them, and they’re being super creative. Hattie and Stella are doing it most nights.”

The Beverly Hills, 90210 actress went on to note that, on the occasional days when the boys are in charge of repositioning the elves, “it’s a little different.”

“Let’s just say I had to come down,” she teased. “I came down early the other day and I had to change the elves’ positions. I was like, ‘No.’ ” 

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Despite having to occasionally rearrange her sons’ NSFW Elf on the Shelf displays, Spelling emphasized that her youngest has been loving the age-appropriate Elf on the Shelf ideas his siblings have come up with. 

“They did one Stranger Things, the upside-down world,” the mom of five said. “Beau doesn’t watch Stranger Things, but he knows all about it. They talk about it, and so he immediately saw it and was like, ‘Oh my God, this is Stranger Things.’ The elves were hanging up and down from the ceiling and taped, and I was like, ‘Oh, that’s a good one.’ ”

While Spelling admitted that being a mom can feel like she’s climbing and falling down and climbing back up “every frigging day,” she also expressed how grateful she is to have a good co-parenting relationship with her ex-husband, Dean McDermott.

“I am so grateful for that,” she told PEOPLE. “I can’t tell you, I watched families go through horror stories with the parents and, at the end of the day, you created beings because you had so much love between you.”

“We love and care about each other so much, and I was shocked just because I always read horror stories and everyone predicted it to be so messy, the divorce, and it was super easy and loving,” she continued. “We do family dinners, we do everything together, so it’s really good for the kids.”